I’ve noticed a lot said about “love”, especially as an argument for same-sex marriage, which is a conflict in terms itself. In a recent late-night talk show skit, an off-the-cuff comment by a particular reality show participant was made fun of because of the type of program he was on. But what exactly is the argument the host was trying to make. Well the point of this particular reality show is about “finding love” for one participant out of a field of several who are competing for the participant’s affection. I find the show itself demeaning, as far as how love is sewn and cultivated in a relationship, but moreover it obfuscates what exactly “love” is.
A popular song several years ago asked that same question, another one asked what it has to do with anything. We have taken something meant to be an action, not of the moment but for a lifetime, and turned it into a sporting event. It has become the source of fodder for dozen, if not hundreds, of movies.
Acts of love, those of sacrificial kindness, are confused with emotion and momentary pleasures that, separated from a committed bond injure those attempting to force a issue rather than deciding to make it happen.
Ravi Zacharias, in a recent talk, lamented about the confusion over love, how one word can be used, or abused, in any number of ways to manipulate people. In a presentation by speaker and author Frank Turek, he played a short number of clips in which young women openly stated that they degraded themselves in hopes of being loved.
Our culture has set itself to deify love without clearly defining what exactly love is and what it isn’t. We speak so much of this thing, yet we draw blanks as to what it is. We try to find some human example to point to, but they come up short and ultimately meaningless to a society hung on relativism, which leads to dissatisfaction and despair and confusion, a confusion that has spilled over into how we want to try to define reality, rather that embracing the reality that is made evident in this statement: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him will never die but inherit eternal life. (John 3:16)”